Saturday, December 6, 2014

To Be or Not To Be Forever

I usually post blogs about people who will be in my life forever, this week I wanted to write about that along with something different. Everyone has friends who come and go in their life, and sometimes this can be quite difficult to deal with.  In middle school I had one group of friends and we stayed like that in high school. However, in my senior year that changed, I started a serious relationship and most of my time was spent with my boyfriend. Since this happened, many of my “friends” began talking behind my back.  As time went on, I began to slowly stop talking to these “friends.” My mom told me quite often that if I didn’t spend so my much time with my boyfriend then I would still be friends with them. I see this as a blessing though. I learned that “friends” do not stay in your life forever; they come and go, just like seasons. But I do have people in my life who I know will always be there for me.

I was also blessed by having an amazing boyfriend . My boyfriend is there for me no matter what and gives me all of the support in the world. He calms me down when I get moody and reminds me that everything happens for a reason.
 My best friend also always there for me whenever I need someone to talk to and she is a reminder that I do not need many friends to have a good life. Having these two people in my presence makes my life worth living.

My sister is also one of my closest friends. I do not tell her everything obviously, she would totally tell our mom then, but she understands me better than any other person.  Almost every rough patch I go through, whether it’s break ups, having horrible friends, or our parents’ divorce she was always there for me just as I am always there for her.

There are people in my family who do not necessarily get along. The majority of my family lives extremely close, like neighbors close, but then there is my aunt. She lives about a country block away and often “stirs the pot” in our family.  She starts many fights and wants anything and everything to be about her. I was really close to my aunt growing up, but as years passed, I began to hardly see her. Today, I usually only see her around Christmas and a few times during the summer.


One thing I have learned about life is that I have the ability to choose my friends. I can pick who I want to spend my life with and the people who I want to have in my personal circle. I may form numerous relationships with people, but not many will last. I know if I want someone to be in my life forever then I have to make that happen.